My husband and I have now been married for 4 years, and let me tell you, it has been a jam-packed 4 years. We have been so blessed by so many things, but we have had our fair share of trials as well. Even though I would never ask to go through the hardships that we had to face, I wouldn’t change our journey because I have been able to share the lessons we have learned with others, and I believe that has been helpful for some. While we are no means marriage experts, I think we are doing alright. And with that, I wanted to share a bit of what we have learned to stay connected in our marriage.
Grow Your Relationships
I have been married for about 4 years now. Long enough to be out of the honeymoon phase but not long enough to know it all. However, my husband and I have been together since my freshman year of high school (minus a small gap when we went off to college), which is well over 10 years of being ‘shipped. We have learned quite a few lessons during that time, but one of the toughest lessons to learn has been how to fight fair.
If you haven’t caught on yet, when someone states that another person is ‘strong-willed’, they are trying to find a nice way to say that person is stubborn as heck.
Eric and I are both very strong-willed people.
In December of 2016, my husband and I were able to bring our little girl Kinsley into the world. As a first time mom, I have had a lot of learning to do in order to keep myself above water. While I am no parenting expert quite yet, I have learned a few tips and tricks to help keep my sanity (or at least convincingly enough) with a newborn.
“I am not going to sugar coat anything. There is a lot that is wrong with your baby. It isn’t going to make it. I just want to be honest with you.”
Those were the first words we heard from a doctor after going in for our ultrasound at 19 weeks. I began to bawl as the doctor started talking. I think I was crying so hard that he just gave up trying to explain anything to me. I don’t remember what he said but he tried to give me a quick hug and then quickly made it out of the room.
On November 10, 2015, my husband and I joined a club that nobody wants to be a part of. We lost a baby.